Would you say anal sex is demeaning to women? Man A: The only way it can be is with the intent to demean. A friend of mine who is a pretty ardent feminist and former National Organization for Women intern told me she used to think doggy style sex was demeaning to women until she tried it and found it felt awesome. So no, anal isn't demeaning to women as long as she's a willing participant and the intent is for both people to have fun and get off.
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I kinda get that one. But the one act seems to reign supreme as the biggest center of controversy and that is anal sex. The reason why some people have such a terrible experience is that the anus does not expand and repair itself as well as the vagina and sex can cause rips and pain if not done properly. Because of so many women having these terrible experience with anal sex, it can lead to understandable apprehension, which can then lead to coercion by their partner. Because we see anal sex as taboo and scary, there is less of a dialogue about it and therefore people are less likely to discuss it, even to say no. With taboo subjects, talking about it is just that—taboo. Sex acts like these have become that of party legend and bar talk, not legitimate talk between two consenting adults like it should be.
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But sometimes, anal talk can work better with a little planning. The most important thing to remember is to never surprise someone with anal play. While many people love anal sex and would enjoy adding it to their sexual repertoire, not everyone does.
Over the past decade, anal sex —or at least, talking about anal sex—has become significantly less taboo, perhaps because butts have taken on an entirely new status thanks, social media! But the thing is, anal sex can oftentimes become the preferred method for women who don't have vaginas, for those for whom vaginal penetration is especially painful, and for women who simply experience more pleasure that way, Clarke explains. For some women, it's is the cherry on top of a sexual sundae: a little extra treat that elevates something that was already delicious on its own talking about sex here.