Sometimes, and for the most part, I feel super strong and fun and sexy when I say it. Could a person really put that on a business card? Maybe we should say perverts or deviants instead. Would people take us seriously? As much as I want to fully embrace my sexy slut self, I still have some serious discomfort around the word.
I'm A Woman Who Loves Sex, And I Won't Apologize For It
Slut-shaming - Wikipedia
It's a warning more than a word: a reminder to women to adhere to sexual norms or be punished. Sandra Fluke heard it when she talked about insurance coverage for birth control. Sara Brown from Boston told me she was first called it at a pool party in the fifth grade because she was wearing a bikini. Courtney Caldwell in Dallas said she was tagged with it after being sexually assaulted as a freshman in high school. Many women I asked even said that it was not having sex that inspired a young man to start rumors that they were one. And this is what is so confounding about the word "slut": it's arguably the most ubiquitous slur used against women, and yet it's nearly impossible to define. The one thing we do know about "slut" is that it's the last thing a woman should want to be.
What makes a slut? The only rule, it seems, is being female
Slut-shaming is the practice of criticizing people, especially women and girls, who are perceived to violate expectations of behavior and appearance regarding issues related to sexuality. Examples of slut-shaming include being criticized or punished for violating dress code policies by dressing in perceived sexually provocative ways, requesting access to birth control ,    having premarital , casual , or promiscuous sex, engaging in prostitution ,   or when being victim blamed for being raped or otherwise sexually assaulted. Slut-shaming involves criticizing women for their transgression of accepted codes of sexual conduct,  i.
In our sexual histories series, authors explore changing sexual mores from antiquity to today. In our contemporary world, the idea that sex is pleasurable is rarely questioned: pleasure is a key way of understanding what sex is and what it means. Yet this was not always so. Historically, pleasure was not the only, or even the main, expectation from sex for women, and there were significant changes across the 20th century. When Australia federated in , women were imagined largely as reproducers, rather than lovers.